I’ve heard people say it’s impossible to make friends as an adult.

And yet I’m 32 and making more friends than ever.

Why the discrepancy?

I think it’s yet another example of our beliefs affecting our reality.

If you believe that it’s hard (or not acceptable) to make friends as an adult, you’ll be less likely to seek out new people, speak warmly with them, ask to hang out, and so on… and so you won’t end up making friends with them… and so you’ll believe even more that it’s not possible.

Whereas if you reframe that thought and start being proactive, you’ll find that there are friendly people everywhere. It’s overwhelming! I now have to learn better boundary-setting because I have too many social opportunities. And I firmly believe this has nothing to do with any fixed intrinsic attribute of me as a person—there were times when making friends wasn’t nearly this easy—it’s ALL just mindset shift.