A reminder for myself, any time I think tremendous growth isn’t possible…

A couple of years ago I had frequent doubts about my social life. I’ve always had some friends… but I was pretty insecure about whether people really liked me when I was younger, and those insecurities die hard. As an adult I’d often get into thought loops about people not liking me… I couldn’t understand why they’d like me, so I’d doubt the friendships. I’d stress out if someone didn’t reply, I’d try hard to get invited to things, and I’d often feel lonely.

Fast forward to now, and honestly if I had to state any problem with my social life it’d be that I have too many friends! My WhatsApp unreads are above 70 right now despite clearing them not long ago and replying to many people immediately. I frequently have to say no to plans. I’ve literally sent myself to an Airbnb cottage this week because I’ve done so much socialising with so many friends over the last couple of months that I desperately needed alone time.

I have abundance (and my mindset is finally catching up with the fact I have abundance). It spirals—once you’re not worried about the thing, and you let it happen, you get so much of the thing. The social life problem is a totally solved problem for me now.

But it wasn’t a trivial journey to get there. I want to distill down what I did to get from A to B… because I think it’d be really helpful for other people who are struggling with the same thing or a different thing in their own life, and because I want to apply it to other aspects of my own life (like dating). I haven’t figured out a clear concise copyable roadmap, yet. But one takeaway that can be used immediately is the realisation that such a journey exists. If I can do it with this, I can do it with other things too.