When something ‘bad’ happens. As early as possible… get into the habit of saying ‘good’.

The store was closed when I needed something. Good.

She didn’t message me back. Good.

I lost the client to a competitor. Good.

Every situation you encounter is an opportunity for growth¹. Without adversity, you can’t grow. If you accept that it happened, you realise that it isn’t really good or bad in any objective sense. It just is. Now you can move forward from this reality, learn from it, and you’re a more evolved being than before it happened.

1. Filing this one under ‘optimal to believe is true, even if false’. ↩